Weird things friends have said to you..

[Snarky Oracle!]

... or about you.

Any stories?

 

[DallasFanForever]

A few years back I had just broken up with someone I really cared about and I was very depressed this one particular evening. Well, a friend of mine gave me a good pep talk. We talked for hours just sitting around at her place of work and she just kept telling me how I’d be fine, I could do better, there’s someone better out there, you know, all the usual things you say to someone at that time. I kept telling her I felt like I was imposing since she was still working but she kept telling me she didn’t care about that and she was here for me.

I was starting to feel so much better as she began telling me about some of her previous relationships and how bad they were yet here she was now happily married and all of that was behind her. Hope was starting to enter my depressed little mind as she kept saying the nicest things to me.

I’ll never forget this one particular thing she said.....

“You’re not like most guys. You’re so good with talking about your feelings. I wish my husband was more like you. You’re not afraid to air it out, and that’s a great way to be for you because let’s face it you’re not very good looking.”

Always nice to get that vote of confidence from a friend at your lowest point.

 

[Snarky Oracle!]

A few years back I had just broken up with someone I really cared about and I was very depressed this one particular evening. Well, a friend of mine gave me a good pep talk. We talked for hours just sitting around at her place of work and she just kept telling me how I’d be fine, I could do better, there’s someone better out there, you know, all the usual things you say to someone at that time. I kept telling her I felt like I was imposing since she was still working but she kept telling me she didn’t care about that and she was here for me.

I was starting to feel so much better as she began telling me about some of her previous relationships and how bad they were yet here she was now happily married and all of that was behind her. Hope was starting to enter my depressed little mind as she kept saying the nicest things to me.

I’ll never forget this one particular thing she said.....

“You’re not like most guys. You’re so good with talking about your feelings. I wish my husband was more like you. You’re not afraid to air it out, and that’s a great way to be for you because let’s face it you’re not very good looking.”

Always nice to get that vote of confidence from a friend at your lowest point.

OMG!

 

[Angels Chanting]

A few years back I had just broken up with someone I really cared about and I was very depressed this one particular evening. Well, a friend of mine gave me a good pep talk. We talked for hours just sitting around at her place of work and she just kept telling me how I’d be fine, I could do better, there’s someone better out there, you know, all the usual things you say to someone at that time. I kept telling her I felt like I was imposing since she was still working but she kept telling me she didn’t care about that and she was here for me.

I was starting to feel so much better as she began telling me about some of her previous relationships and how bad they were yet here she was now happily married and all of that was behind her. Hope was starting to enter my depressed little mind as she kept saying the nicest things to me.

I’ll never forget this one particular thing she said.....

“You’re not like most guys. You’re so good with talking about your feelings. I wish my husband was more like you. You’re not afraid to air it out, and that’s a great way to be for you because let’s face it you’re not very good looking.”

Always nice to get that vote of confidence from a friend at your lowest point.

Good looks are subjective, good personality, character and behaviour are facts that everyone will see.

A close friend of mine once told me he never used to like black people until he met me. He meant it as a compliment.

 

[Snarky Oracle!]

I have to ask @DallasFanForever if he remained friends with her. And, if so, was she just dingy or was she using your vulnerability at the moment, setting you up with fake support, just to zing you in the end?

A close friend of mine once told me he never used to like black people until he met me. He meant it as a compliment.

But why did he dislike black people -- did he ever explain his bias?

 

[Frank Under the Mistletoe]

Growing up, I had a friend who was a Jehovah's Witness. He once told me I was his best "worldly" friend. Now he's a gay atheist. Go figure.

In high school, I had another friend tell me he couldn't be friends with me anymore because my sister insulted him. Apparently, he believed the actions of one's family reflected on that person. I was like "Okay, peace out then." It certainly wasn't a great loss. I found out later that my sister insulted him because he had said a crude remark to her.

 

[Avery Merry Christmas]

One of my long-ago managers made an impromptu comment about me, saying that she was so glad to have me around, "the only department head who takes care of his own issues and doesn't dump his problems on us [upper management]" (or words to that effect). Now I pride myself on being self-reliant but I never thought anyone had noticed, so the compliment really hit a bulls-eye with me. I was grinning from ear to ear and told my assistant at the time that Lee was really happy with how we stayed on top of things and "put out our own fires", etc. So then Alison (also feeling complimented) felt the need to mention it to one of her friends while on break, and then it got back to another department head....who had just had an uncomfortable meeting with Lee and the General Manager about "personnel issues" in that department. Lee had apparently made that comment/compliment to me in direct reaction to the messy meeting she had just gotten out of, but to the other DH it sounded as if Lee and I were slamming him and his (admittedly messy) leadership skills to my assistant Alison, and that Lee and I were secretly discussing what had gone down in that meeting. So I was now in a no-win situation because there was no way to explain my way out of it tactfully. I half-jokingly told Lee never to say anything nice to me again.

 

[Angels Chanting]

But why did he dislike black people -- did he ever explain his bias?

He said he felt intimidated by black people but there often is no real basis for people's unconscious bias.

 

[Oh!Carol Christmasson]

because let’s face it you’re not very good looking.

What a plot twist! I had not expected that when I read your post.

 

[Snarky Oracle!]

Let me sort through the compliments -- and insults -- for me that come to mind... Since I started the thread myself.

Should I post general observations made about me, or just pithy jabs which are shocking and unbelievable??

 

[DallasFanForever]

Good looks are subjective, good personality, character and behaviour are facts that everyone will see.

Totally agree with this. Looks are looks and we all have different tastes. The other things are what really count, let’s face it.

I have to ask @DallasFanForever if he remained friends with her. And, if so, was she just dingy or was she using your vulnerability at the moment, setting you up with fake support, just to zing you in the end?

I did remain friends with her. She definitely wasn’t “dingy” or giving me fake support. I’m sure of that. Let me say that without her I honestly never would’ve made it through that difficult time. As for the comment, eh, life’s too short for grudges and I’m very forgiving. I’d like to think a good friendship can withstand one little insensitive remark. I’m sure I’ve made some as well.

Ironically whenever I bring up her comment she cracks up laughing and claims she never said it and would never even think it so we playfully argue about it back and forth. It’s become kind of a game now.

 

[Snarky Oracle!]

Totally agree with this. Looks are looks and we all have different tastes. The other things are what really count, let’s face it.

I've never gotten the Vogue/GQ cover model appeal. Those kinds of perfect-looking people usually have an antiseptic, non-tactile quality about them, no matter how well they photograph.

In Lowe-ian terms, myself, I am solidly Team Chad as opposed to Team Rob.

I did remain friends with her. She definitely wasn’t “dingy” or giving me fake support. I’m sure of that. Let me say that without her I honestly never would’ve made it through that difficult time. As for the comment, eh, life’s too short for grudges and I’m very forgiving. I’d like to think a good friendship can withstand one little insensitive remark. I’m sure I’ve made some as well.

Ironically whenever I bring up her comment she cracks up laughing and claims she never said it and would never even think it so we playfully argue about it back and forth. It’s become kind of a game now.

Interesting. It's commendable you're so forgiving and don't hold a grudge. I think that's good. But what did she do that was so supportive that it helped you get through the tough times you feel you otherwise wouldn't?

Even she denies the quote? So it must strike her as questionable as it would anybody else.

It just seems terribly passive-aggressive (the Tellytalk term of the summer).

 

[DallasFanForever]

But what did she do that was so supportive that it helped you get through the tough times you feel you otherwise wouldn't?

Other than insult me? Let’s just say she did talk me down off a ledge that night when I needed it and no one else was around. I never forgot that. Of course her comment could’ve seriously backfired.

Even she denies the quote? So it must strike her as questionable as it would anybody else.

According to her, never said it and scoffs at the notion. Not something she’d ever say and doesn’t even think it’s true so doesn’t know where I’m getting it from. I think she’s messing with me. Of course every time I’m with her I do bring it up just to terrorize her and see if she will finally admit to it but it’s not happening. All she does is laugh at the idea.

Maybe we should re-title the thread weird things friends have said to you but don’t remember.

 

[Snarky Oracle!]

Other than insult me? Let’s just say she did talk me down off a ledge that night when I needed it and no one else was around. I never forgot that. Of course her comment could’ve seriously backfired.



According to her, never said it and scoffs at the notion. Not something she’d ever say and doesn’t even think it’s true so doesn’t know where I’m getting it from. I think she’s messing with me. Of course every time I’m with her I do bring it up just to terrorize her and see if she will finally admit to it but it’s not happening. All she does is laugh at the idea.

Maybe we should re-title the thread weird things friends have said to you but don’t remember.

Yeah, it's sounds all gas-light-y.

I'm glad she talked you off that ledge, but it sounds like she saved you because she needed you around to covertly abuse.

Don't feel bad. It happens.

 

[Biggie's B.I.G Manger Mash-up]

Enjoying some late night candlelight with a gentleman I've known since forever....

This topic came up and I regaled him with some of the things I've been offered...

By a woman I dated... "if you get arrested by the police, after they read your rights say...and ask if you have any comments say 'please stop hitting officer'. That will be enough to get you off"
I said to her "if the objective is to discredit the police officer that arrested you, surly asking him to stop raping you would carry more weight. Why not do that?"

By a workmate... "you are told to get into the brace position if the plane is about to crash, so that they can identify your body by your face"
I said "the plane hits the ground at 300mph... you'll be identified by a DNA swab"

By a twit I know..."when I told the duty solicitor the advise I was given by the bus driver, and believed. The solicitor laughed at me and said I was going to prison today"
I said "you are the thickest (curse) I've ever known... "

I seem to attract 'em.

 

[DallasFanForever]

By a workmate... "you are told to get into the brace position if the plane is about to crash, so that they can identify your body by your face"
I said "the plane hits the ground at 300mph... you'll be identified by a DNA swab"

I always hate hearing this when flying. It can definitely put a damper on the flight and put things in perspective. Personally if we’re going down I would most likely be in the praying position instead.

 

[9unfold]

Some while back someone suggested to me that Boeing should make their planes from the same stuff that the black boxes are made from.

 

[Snarky Oracle!]

This wasn't actually said to me in particular, but what does it mean when somebody calls someone "butter" or "my butter."

Scrolling through the Urban Dictionary, I couldn't figure it out.

 

[DallasFanForever]

This wasn't actually said to me in particular, but what does it mean when somebody calls someone "butter" or "my butter."

It means they prefer you to margarine.

No, all kidding aside I’m reading that calling someone “butter” actually means they’re not exactly the nicest looking person. I’ve never heard it used that way personally so I’m not sure if that’s correct.