Ray in season 10.

[kenneth]

Can we agree that after Pam wakes up, Ray turns into a total dick? He places the entire blame for the breakdown of their marriage and eventual divorce on Donna, showing no recognition for her contributions or the support she has given him.

His hostility extends to Bobby as well, acting as if Bobby “dumped” Jenna and discarded her, when in fact she ended the relationship. Had she not made that choice, Bobby likely would have stayed with her. And then there’s Jenna’s pregnancy — Bobby didn’t even know she was expecting, though Ray acts as if he knew and told Jenna to go eat yellow snow. If he had known, coupled with her not ending things, he certainly would have married her.

In short, Ray’s attitude makes even Cliff’s sexist behavior seem mild by comparison.

 

[James from London]

It's not as black and white as that. It really all goes back to Ray's whole life and upbringing and his resultant insecurities and stuff. Of course, you can dismiss all that if you just wanna make a quick judgement and move on, and that of course is your prerogative.

 

[Taylor Bennett Jr.]

Ray, like many on the show, needed a weekly hour with the indefatigable Dr. Ellby!

 

[Snarky Oracle!]

Ray, like many on the show, needed a weekly hour with the indefatigable Dr. Ellby!

And his strategic refusal to pour you a glass of water in order to increase your self-esteem.

 

[Taylor Bennett Jr.]

And his strategic refusal to pour you a glass of water in order to increase your self-esteem.

it’s always interesting to speculate if Sue Ellen would have been convicted of attempted murder if Ellby hadn’t hypnotized her. All the Ewings but Bobby were ready to send her to the gallows.

 

[Billy Wall]

His hostility extends to Bobby as well, acting as if Bobby “dumped” Jenna and discarded her, when in fact she ended the relationship. Had she not made that choice, Bobby likely would have stayed with her.

I've called Ray out on his insecurities and self-pity numerous times and I agreed with everything you said, accept this. The only reason Jenna broke off the engagement was because she knew Bobby was still in love with Pam. She saw it in his eyes at Mitch and Lucy's wedding. And after the dream season, it was Bobby who broke up with Jenna.