Watching Dallas, it's clear this is popcorn-drama as its fastest. Everything happens in superspeed compared to Dynasty. Dynasty clearly has a lot more intimacy and focuses on talks and looks, a sort of ongoing bedroom-drama.
JR is impossible not to love. I keep watching because of him and his next shananigan.
The two shows couldn't be more different.
You've really got to specify the periods of the two shows to which you're referring.
One of the complaints some viewers had about DALLAS' early era was that it was
too slow (the season which opened with 'WSJR?' was sometimes like watching paint dry -- made worse by a repetitive stock music score they were forced to use during a composers' strike). And the DYNASTY producers bragged -- correctly, at the time -- that their show moved more quickly and "respected the audiences' intelligent," but that point was made just after Season 2.
But that all changed after the 1981-1982 season: DALLAS then sped up (in a good way) and DYNASTY started to ramble because they were no longer really telling their stories.
DYNASTY's "intimacy" moments became shlock-talk, pretentious filler-exchanges with no real point to them. And DALLAS didn't do that, being more legitimately character-based most of the time.
Yes, the DYNASTY's dialogue from Seasons 1, 2 & 9
did do the things you describe. But during Seasons 3 thru 7, the conversations would always quickly swerve off from the original topic into that "I'm-your-mother/I'm-your-father/why-won't-you-share-your-pain-with-me??"malarkey because the writers were disinterested in with their own plotlines and no longer knew how to write the series.
Rita Lakin, a good writer and the story editor from Season 7 where she toiled unhappily, pointed out self-evidently that DYNASTY's Pollock duo, who ran the show's narrative, "weren't really proper writers." It's no wonder Lakin got out as soon as possible in frustration. Camiile Marchetta, a writer-producer from Season 5, complained that the Pollocks' disrespect for logic was a problem, their doing nonsensical things just to "surprise" viewers.
The last few seasons of DALLAS didn't work either, as we all know. Just becoming too silly.